I just read an article that a friend posted on facebook and so much went through my head... it made me reflect on how I treat others and it also stung just a little bit. Here's the article.
From what I can see, the author isn't necessarily some wise man who's influence on the world is of much importance, but I think a lot of what he said IS important and is something I strongly believe in. That something is that everyone deserves to be loved.
I have some very strong beliefs on what I feel are right or wrong. Some beliefs I have been taught, and some I have acquired through experience. But just because someone believes differently than me or makes choices I disagree with has rarely been an issue on whether or not I love that person or changes how I treat them. The only struggle I've ever really had when it comes to hate is that of people who have no heart. People who are purposely mean to others. And yet truly- those people deserve love and forgiveness too. Hate really is a strong word- and I probably don't even mean it in it's fullest sense. I just don't like seeing people hurt.
I've had to deal with this kind of hurt all of my life- mostly indirectly. But I've seen people who I love being judged because of how they dress, how they act, how they look, how they eat, and because of how they live their lives.
Just one example. Not too long ago, my baby brother who I am so protective of and love dearly decided to go on a long road trip/camping trip across the US with 2 of his buddies.It wasn't long before they were short on cash. They stood on corners of the highway asking for a little bit of cash to get them to the next place. A few days (uh, dare I say weeks?) without a shower, unclean clothes and living in his friends car, he was basically homeless. His arms are lined with tattoos and his hair maybe just a tad overgrown. (Nevertheless, I find him quite handsome). I'm sure people thought the worst of him. They were willing to work- and did- and even tried to find jobs which they were unable to get because their permanent address was in a different state. Eventually my parents flew him home, and I had a few discussions with him about his journey.
Before I go any further, let me tell you a few other things about my little brother Sol. He's one of the most unselfish people I know. He will drop things in a flash to help me out with no whining or complaining- and without asking anything in return. He once drove with me to Columbus Ohio for a photo shoot just so I didn't have to be alone... gave up his whole day. He also drove over recently to help me bring down a few heavy boxes from my office to the garage- a task that took less time than it did to drive to my home. He doesn't know how much those little acts of kindness mean to me. In fact, I'm a tad bit afraid he might think I am taking advantage of him but I doubt it- he's not really like that.
Has he made choices that in my opinion are unwise- maybe even stupid? You betcha. But I love him regardless because I know his heart. And I know he deserves to be loved. So what I don't understand is that as he stood on the corner of the highway in need, so many people drove by giving him dirty looks- thinking he must have been some lazy bum. Undeserving of love. See, it's easy for me to not understand because I know him personally. But everyone has a back story and how many times have we judged? Truly, everyone is a child of God- loved by Him regardless of who he is, how much he has sinned or what bad choices he has made.
I want to make it clear that I am not perfect- I have my moments of judgement and such. But I feel very strongly that all people deserve love and friendship. Some of the kindest and funniest people I know don't share my ideals- and I feel blessed to have/have had them in my life.
I had a conversation with Joselyn earlier on tonight as we discussed the meaning of Christmas. We talked about how it's a day when we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. I told her to think of some gifts that we could possibly give Him... we couldn't give him toys or money or other "things"... instead the greatest gift we could give him was our hearts- and to love others who are His children. She totally got it. This Christmas I want to focus my heart on just that- loving others no matter what. We could all be a little bit better at that- don't you think?