I just recenly admitted I have a yelling problem. It was kind of interesting because that same week I saw, for the third time, a friend of mine like a page on facebook called Orange Rhino. So I decided to check out what it was all about. The Orange Rhino project is about a mother who committed to not yell at her kids for one whole year!!! She started the blog as support for herself and in the process learned a lot. So she decided to start sharing what she learned and help others who were also wanting to stop the yelling. I hate the spirit it brings into my home and I am especially tough on my little man- whose feelings are super tender. On Monday I started one of her 30 days to no yelling challenges and was surprised that I immediately saw a change in myself. I guess part of it was being accountable for my actions and being more aware of my actions. Ever since I started the challenge I am happy to say I have not yelled once. The first day was super easy- the second day SUPER hard and today has been better. I have had the same sorts of things to deal with as when I did yell but I finally have a good reason not to. And one thing HAS surprised me. I like being a non-yelling mother. I have more fun with my kids and don't have this constant guilt or annoyance with them. It seems like being angry does that to you- it elevates your annoyance towards the children you love. My kids have also noticed a change and they love a non-yelling mom. Which makes me want to be even better!
Motherhood has been on my mind a lot lately. Right before these photos were taken I read an article about motherhood and being more present. I also read a blog post about being in photos with your children more. I was so guilty of not doing that. SO I had Kasey take some pictures of me and each of the kids. Ever since then, I have noticed a lot of moms taking pictures of their kids having fun with stuff THEY prepared for them- but yet they were not in the picture. It got me thinking. I just started a project which will hopefully change all of that! I'm really really excited about it and it seems people I have introduced the idea to are excited as well. I started with this project recently and have my first success story. Julie is a fellow photographer who had her baby not long after I had Lyla. She had read the article too, and volunteered to be one of my 2 "guinea pigs". (I'm so excited about my second "guinea pig" Tara and her adorable boys!)
The project involves choosing an activity (daily or special) that means something to the mother and her child or children. I then capture it on video and take pictures in between scenes. What results is a completely natural setting where love mother-child bond shines through. I LOVE this. I have 10 people lined up already for the beginning of this project and I will hopefully be opening up more slots later on in the summer. I think I have found my calling in life!!